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I am Renuka.

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15 ways to help yourself feel good.

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Feeling good is the key to letting the best unfold. When you feel good you elevate your whole being to a higher frequency and you become a magnet to more opportunities to feel good. So, if you like to have fun with law of attraction, just like I do, remember to deliberately help yourself towards feeling good.

Here are some ideas to help you:

1. Count your blessings. Help your brain see all the ways in which your life is already blessed. If you are thinking that you have nothing to feel blessed for, start with counting simple blessings like these– gift of being alive, air to breathe, water to quench your thirst, food to nourish your body, roof over your head. Count even the smallest of the blessings. 

2. Move your body. Go take a walk. Or do some stretching or spot jogging. Or join your local gym or take a yoga class. Basically, move your body and ensure that you have fun doing it.

3.  Open your windows and let your living / working space fill with lots of light and fresh air.

4.  Do some quick decluttering and/ or organizing around you. The physical spaces where you spend your time most affects your emotional state. So having your space clean and organized definitely helps you feel good.

5.  Take a warm shower. A nice warm shower after a long day feels so relaxing. Doesn’t it? 🙂

6.  Give and receive a hug. It engages our heart chakra and soaks our whole being in the vibration of love. <3 

7.  Connect with your friends. As humans are social animals, when we spend time and connect with people we love we feel happier.

8.  Keep yourself hydrated. Around 78% of our body is made up of water and it plays an important role in carrying out various functions at bodily as well as cellular level. So when you are adequately hydrated your body knows that all is well.

9.  Wear something that makes you feel happy. I absolutely love how wearing your favourite piece of garment or accessory can instantly uplift your mood. Also, if you own any clothes and accessories that don’t feel good, you might want to get rid of them.

10.  Engage in something creative – cooking, painting, writing. (Choose something different to what you do for a living so that it feels light and fun.) I love making time for creativity and engaging in it. Painting and cooking are my personal favourites. See what would work best for you and make time for it. 

11.  Spend time in nature – take a walk outdoors, or even better, take a walk barefoot; swim in the sea; count the stars; soak yourself in the sunlight or in the moonlight depending on the time of the day; or just go hug a tree.

12.  Engage in play, be a child again – color, doodle, play with your kids or with your pets. My personal favourite is playing with my dog, Joy and yes he is a boy. 🙂

13.  Day dream about your best life. Our mind doesn’t know the difference between reality and imagination. When you imagine experiencing something that makes you happy, your brain thinks that you are experiencing it in reality and your body starts secreting the happy hormones.

14.  Do something that uplifts your senses. Like light a candle; or rub some essential oil on your wrists and sniff it; or listen to some nice classical music (Mozart, Bach); or anything else that uplifts your senses. 

15.  Look into the mirror and smile at yourself. When you feel good you automatically smile more but vice versa is also true – the more you smile the more you feel good. So smile. Smile with your full face. 

Now, why not choose 3 ideas that you loved the most, from the above list, and start including it in your daily practice? 🙂 

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Why feeling good needs to be your priority?

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So, how many of us regularly try to avoid feeling our true feelings in order to avoid making ourselves or others uncomfortable?

Most of us.

And how many of us actually stay mindful of, acknowledge and honor our true feelings?

Very few of us. (It’s a no brainer.)

And why not, now for centuries we have been told that emotions and feelings are dangerous stuff, that it doesn’t allow us to think clearly and logically, and that they aren’t worthy of being acknowledged and honoured. So we were told to learn to control and deny our emotions. The result is a society where most of us no longer are in touch with our true feelings. So what’s the big deal about being in touch with our true feelings, you ask? Our feelings and emotions are our body’s medium of showing us our true north. How we feel about something tells us if we are heading in our right direction or not. When we feel anxious, fearful or angry, it’s our body telling us that the situation or the way we perceive the situation needs to change. When we feel happy and joyous, it’s telling us we are on the right track and so to keep doing what we are doing. So, dissociating from our emotions is like locking away our brilliant compass and completely forgetting that we have one, and then being helplessly lost in the middle of the ocean having nothing to show us our way back home. Sounds really sad right? I agree. But, the good news is, as you are reading this you are remembering.

It would also be helpful to think in Law of Attraction terms. Feelings play such an important role in creating what we desire. Law of attraction states that like attracts like. Anger attracts more opportunities to be angry. Fear attracts more opportunities to be fearful. Sadness attracts more opportunities to be sad. And similarly, love attracts more opportunities to feel love. Gratitude attracts more opportunities to be grateful. Joy attracts more opportunities to be joyous. So, if you want more opportunities or experiences that feel good you need to make feeling good now, your priority.

But, that’s not it. There are more reasons for us to make effort and ensure that we feel good.

How we feel affects how we interact with people and that effects our relationships, all kinds – personal as well as work. When we feel good our interaction with others makes them feel better and that not only makes us more attractive to them but also we exchange more love. And the exchange multiplies our feeling good.

How we feel affects our creativity. When we feel good the channels to receive creative ideas and inspirations open and stay that way. This also assists us in creative problem solving.

How we feel affects our productivity. When we feel happy we think clearly as well as creatively. And we put joy into doing what we are doing.

And, in the end, because feeling good in itself feels damn good, that should be a reason enough for us to deliberately create opportunities to feel good.

(Stay tuned. In my next blog post I will share easy and fun ways for you to help yourself feel good.)

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Knowing your inner-victim, to discover the hero you already are.

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Meet your inner-victim.

The inner-victim represents our stories of helplessness and powerlessness – the stories that keep us stuck in a situation, the stories of fear and the stories of blame. Look closely at your own life and you find the image of your inner-victim in your experiences where you have felt powerless or helpless or have found yourself complaining. Let’s look at some examples of how a inner-victim sounds like:

  • “I was born into a poor family and never had access to the resources that kids’s of rich parents had. How can I ever be as successful as them! (self-pity)”
  • “I had a traumatic childhood. I have no other choice but to carry this pain and hurt throughout my life.”
  • “This world is not a friendly place for a woman. (I am a victim of my gender. My life would have been nicer and easier if I was a man)”
  • “It’s too late for me to follow my dreams.” (Victim of age)
  • “I wish I was taller, slimmer,… I wish my nose was not this big.” (Victim of the body you are born in)
  • Stories of being a victim of your illness.
  • Stories of being a victim of some kind of lack – money, love, resources, opportunities, etc.
  • Stories of being a victim of your perceived weaknesses – not intelligent enough, not creative enough, not courageous enough, etc.
  • Stories of being a victim of the behavior of your family members, friends or colleagues– victim of somebody’s rude behavior, lack of kindness, lack of appreciation, etc.

Just like each one of us has an inner-child, each one of us has an inner-victim too. In my coaching practice – self-coaching as well as coaching my clients – I have found myself working with the inner-victim again and again. And this is what I realised – that the only path to our true personal power is through knowing the inner-victim closely. We need to become aware of our victim stories and our motivation for continuing to believe in these stories. Then and only then can we truly transform our victim archetype and become the powerful co-creators that we already are. When we truly examine this pattern in the light of the truth that each one of us is already a powerful-co-creator, we realize that we can’t be a victim unless we create powerlessness within us by believing in it. Which means all our victim stories are just an illusion. And yet, that’s exactly what we have been doing, subconsciously choosing to believe in the illusion of victimhood – illusions of lack, powerlessness, fear, limitation, rejection and not being good enough. Thinking that our lives would change only if circumstances or people changed. Only if people became more loving and kind. Only if somehow we could change the way we looked. Only if we have had a better childhood. …..

Wake up!

Question your illusions – your dis-empowering beliefs. Acknowledge the anger, the blame, the resentment you have been holding towards people and situations, as a result of believing yourself to be a victim. Forgive them. Forgive god. Forgive yourself. Thank them. Thank the experience. Open your eyes to inherent beauty and perfection in yourself, others and life. Do what you can do to move towards more empowerment. There is ALWAYS something that you CAN do.

Today, vow to transform your inner-victim. Vow to be a hero that you are. Trust me, being a hero – creating and living your best life – is much more joy and fun!

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How to get in touch with your innate self-worth

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Self-worth doesn’t come from chasing society’s idea or even your idea of what being worthy looks like. It comes from shedding off those ideas. Because beneath those ideas is the REAL, EVER-WORTHY YOU, waiting eagerly to be discovered.

An exercise to get in touch with your innate self-worth: 

Complete the sentence below in as many ways as is true for you.

_______________ makes a person worthy.

e.g being rich makes a person worthy, straight hair looks beautiful and beauty makes a person worthy, being slim makes a person worthy, etc….

You now have a list of thoughts representing your idea of what being worthy looks like.

Reflect in what ways each of those thoughts is keeping you away from your true nature. In other words, in what ways are those thoughts limiting you?

Now inhale and exhale deeply. And release the thoughts one by one while you exhale.

Say the following affirmations 3 times. Say it slowly, allowing each cell in your body to absorb it.

WORTH ISN’T SOMETHING THAT WE ACQUIRE. IT IS WHO WE ARE. IT IS WHO EACH ONE OF US, ALREADY IS. 

I AM WORTHY AND DESERVING. 

Good. How are you feeling now? ….. Hope you are feeling more in touch with your innate self-worth, beauty and deserving-ness.

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My latest talk on love, forgiveness and getting in touch with your essential self.

“Renuka helped me see things from a different perspective which I could never have been able to do on my own. She is a gifted coach and a compassionate listener.  I looked forward to each one of our 1-on-1 sessions every single time.” Tulika Dayal